I had a dear friend come to me not so long ago and told me "I need you"... my response to her "what happened." She told through tears and I did my best to support her love her and give her the best advice that I could. I felt good about myself!! I gave great advice, I helped sooth a situation for two people I love, and totally righted all the wrongs that were in my world for that moment. Why then a few hours later did I feel so bad?
Then I realized what I did. My friend came to me with a problem and I asked the wrong questions. Instead of filling her needs I filled mine and got the gossip first. Not that I did this intentional, but I did. I made her rehash something that was deeply personal and hurt her. My question should have been "how can I help". Did it really matter to me what happened? Or was it that she came to me with a need and asked for my help? So in helping her she really helped me, I learned that I need to be a better listener to my friends ... I need to fill their needs, not mine. I have learned in my life that in giving to others I receive the most in return. I just need to remember this and apply it to all areas of my life!! Thanks for reading my first blog, hope that I didn't bore you to death!
God never asks us -- "What happened?"
He says: "I love you -- I am your friend"